I have suffered her manipulations and bullshite all my life but 20 years ago walked away virtually having nothing to do with her. And there are family members who, even after seeing much of her behavior and being repulsed by it when on the receiving end themselves, are staying silent and/or joining in the youre psychotic bullying. Ive sacrificed so much, given so much, helped, advised, gave money, let him return how twice. She had the ECT treatment when l was younger and PND. If you start giving back (which in no way is how I want to live) Big Lie would just up his game. You wait and mirror what they give you I SWEAR it always helps me, and its not an eye for and eye type deal, its more of a can you see what youre doing to me? no matter what, if my husband walked out the house, no amount of texting or callinh could make him leave. Social media is bringing us closer together, dividing us into hatful camps, and isolating us into unobtainable definitions of humanity. What Are The Words That Destroy A Narcissist? - QueenBeeing Mirroring a Narcissists is pointless, they cant see themselves. In court I was able to prove the important issues at hand were lies and he didnt like it I now fear what he will do next.. Have always wanted to find more like us. Just a tiny thing he has done!! She also abuses alcohol and drugs and may have Borderline too. 15 Tactics When a Narcissist Knows You've Figured Them Out The individual attacks everyone around them, and may also damage objects or physically attack people. Luckily we only see her once in awhile because she is too wrapped up in herself and health issues. Never. when it is safe to do so. (and btw, he really deserved me leaving, two months in even and this was like month four). I dont try to persuade or criticize as she cant handle either approach. The real reason why simply confronting a narcissist and calling them out for their behavior won't work is simple: they're not actually listening to you. Think thats going to work? In the workplace, I think the concluding recommendation might be, Fire the narcissist.. It truly is a blessing and a curse. Narcissistic rage can come in one or both types: explosive and passive-aggressive. Why do they go into a narcissistic rage? So I calmly repeat everything back so they know Ive listened and accepted their faults. And while I might not be worthy of her admiration, I am not worthy of her complete annihilating scorn and loathing either. His mom is a whiny guilt manipulator so he has issues too. "Hoovering": The Sneaky Tactic Narcissists Use To Reel You Back In Big fake her smile that drips toxic saliva as she gets a charge seeing the horror hurt shock realisation disbelief and physical pain in the heart. If they threaten you or yell at you, you threaten them and yell at them. ive been studying npd and sociopaths for a good 10 days now and the rabbit hole goes deep. WMDs are not banned in this exchange!!! It causes more pain and tragedy in peoples hearts and minds. They harass, disturb, sabotage and damage the work or possessions of the transgressors. She favors my son over my twin girls. Confronting a narcissist with the truth is not always the healthiest of choices, considering their minds are designed to live in grandiose illusionary states. You must have a strong sense of self-worth, and you must be robust in your approach. What should we do if my sister-in-law/narcissist has gone into a rage in front of our ten year old son? Please give me some advice how to help herself as everything I tried so far seems not have any effect ..I found several articles which tell me to either get out ( which I did with her dad, but cant with my child) or treat her the same as she treats me and threaten with abandonment..both will be hard for me..any advice will be helpful..I love her very much but dont like her atm, if that makes sense . I had been a real friend to him here and there and our convos got more deep and personal. I am disappointed by how shallow and self-absorbed many people and today I cried for the live octopus at the fish market and the stray kitten in the street. I also agree with the caveat for those who have experience physical abuse by their narcissist. Now, I am learning how to undo some of my co-dependent habits. I still have bad days, but I m free from evil person. I have had minimal contact just to confirm money being paid back that he owes me & have blocked him on everything I canI have since had a gloating message from the girl that they are together which hurt but havent reacted & blocked her as I now know any type of reaction he will get off on. This is working for me. A couple of years ago I learned something from her brother. Leave! I go crazy myself trying to fix all she has done already. Go no contact, thats when the healing power begins. I lived with a narcissist for a year and this is exactly what he done, including not contributing to the household! Fortunately, my son was not behind him to be crushed. Just my thoughts. Ive considered it a number of times but I am a stay at home mom and we have a special needs child who needs therapy, so me missing work would not fly. I havent wanted to split up our family and have our children go through divorce, two homes, all the crap that comes with that, etc. It worked. its been almost 8 days and i have blocked him on msg, calls etc. So maybe that is why you chose him. things started going downhill when i confronted her several times about not being able to look me in my eyes and tell me she loves me. Its both pointless and dangerous. I explain things carefully and lowered my expectations of her abilities to respond with warmth. My mother, also intensely narcissistic, was extremely abusive to me as a child. Talk therapy, yoga etc., I still thought that it was my issue to resolve.